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Love and Lust + Giveaway!

December 1, 2010

This month, I had the pleasure of being sent a copy of Susie Bright’s new sex journal “Love and Lust”. For those of you who don’t know much about Susie, go read her blog; she’s a sex-positive feminist author, editor, performer, lecturer, and much more. Susie has written books ranging from topics on sex, erotica, and motherhood. This time around, she has created a journal “for your love life – all the juicy details”.

I’ve loved journaling all my life, and I still have my 101 Dalmations lock and key diary somewhere in my childhood house. Susie’s journal immediately reminded me of those days, answering silly questions that surreptitiously provided an insight into who I was. The biggest difference was that this journal feels like an adult journal. The outside cover is a beautiful floral pattern of black on red, and there is even a lock and two keys; perfect for keeping your secrets to yourself and maybe even one special someone.

Inside the journal is a welcoming note from Susie, followed by beautifully printed pages of fun questions and memorable quotes from characters such as Alice Walker and Zelda Fitzgerald. I chose my favourite pen, and jumped headfirst into journaling. Some of the questions immediately brought up old memories and were easy to answer; “Who was your first kiss?” and “What’s your favorite go-to fantasy?”. Others were more difficult, or I decided to come back to them later when I was in the right mood; “What’s a sexual secret you’ve never shared with anyone?”. I left a few for much later, since I had no experience to draw from to answer the question.

While I thought about skipping around the entire journal, I ended up answering most of the questions in order. They’re grouped into related sections, which made it quite difficult to skip pieces without getting confused about the next question’s references. Even so, I enjoyed moving through this journal at my own page. It’s perfect for reminiscing about old flames, mistakes and triumphs. I kept it by my bedside so I could write in it each night before bed.

I only had a few qualms about this journal. Firstly, a significant portion of the questions require the writer to have a bit of a colourful sexual history. I couldn’t answer questions about having multiple partners in one year, sex with a person who became ‘well known’, sexual partners who had other sexual partners at the same time, or sex with a stranger. It made me sad to skip so many of these questions, so I may go back and write my hypothetical thoughts instead. Susie mentioned that she may later write a ‘virgin’ journal, which I look forward to comparing to this one. I have a feeling I fall somewhere in the middle. The other piece of this journal that irked me was the lock – there weren’t any directions so it took me fifteen minutes to figure out how to use it, and the plastic hits against the page edges and is damaging them over time.

Overall, I would recommend this journal for those who love being prompted to write their thoughts. “Love and Lust” would be a cute gift for a girlfriend who could use a little more introspection, or to share with a group of friends during a sleepover or hen’s night. Keep in mind, however, that some of the questions may be more extreme than the sexual history of you and your buddies. No worries, though; have fun discussing “what ifs?” and see what they think!

Giveaway!


I’ve been lucky enough to give away a copy of “Love and Lust” to one of my lucky readers. There are many ways to enter!

Mandatory entry (from Love and Lust): Tell me, what movie sex scene would you love to put yourself in and why?

Extra Entries:
Make sure to leave a comment for every entry; if it says 5 entries, please leave 5 comments! Also, include any relative URLs for tweets, blog posts, etc.

  • Follow me “@dusk_in_chains” on Twitter. [ 1 entry]
  • Friend me on Facebook. [1 entry]
  • “Like” my page on Facebook. [1 entry]
  • Follow @susiebright on Twitter. [1 entry]
  • Blog about this giveaway. [5 entries]
  • Subscribe to my RSS feed or email updates. [2 entries]
  • Post this on Facebook. [2 entries]
  • Tweet about it once per day. Make sure to include @dusk_in_chains , @susiebright , and a link to this post. Ex:  Enter to win @susiebright’s Love and Lust sex journal from @dusk_in_chains! http://bit.ly/gGPcJ0 [1 entry each]
  • Add me to your blogroll. [1 entry]
  • Add my button to your blog. [5 entries]

I will be verifying all posts and using RANDOM.ORG to choose the winner.

Deadline: January 1st, 2011 at 11:59 p.m. PST.

Restrictions: You must live in the continental US or have a friend here to whom I can ship your prize.

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  1. Siennasai permalink
    December 5, 2010 4:15 pm

    ~*Tell me, what movie sex scene would you love to put yourself in and why?*~

    One of my favorite scenes is from the 2006 ” Jane Eyre”, with Toby Stephens as Edward Rochester and Ruth Wilson as Jane Eyre. We view it in flashback, after Jane has had to leave him, so it’s made especially poignant:
    They’re lying in bed, on closeup. Edward’s on top, clasping Jane to him by a hand gently under her jaw, so that he might kiss her as deep as possible. He breaks away, both of them gasping, to ask if she would stay despite his deception. She refuses. Determined, he recaptures her lips, his hand falling from her face to softly trace her collarbone. Etc. Etc.
    It’s an extremely sexy, passionate, emotionally-invested love interlude that doesn’t quite make it to ‘sex scene’, but it’s the resistance and struggle for dominance on the issue that makes it so exciting. Later, it’s only when the two can be equals that the sexin’ is FLAME ON–which is unfortunately left to the imagination. XD
    I’d love to be Jane in this movie, not only because Toby Stephens is complete smexy, but because of the balance struck between staking independence as the self and losing the self to hot, sensual luurve.

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    December 5, 2010 4:16 pm

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    December 5, 2010 4:17 pm

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    December 5, 2010 4:17 pm

    Liked your page on Facebook (as C Lee Siennasai)~

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    December 5, 2010 4:18 pm

    Following @susiebright on Twitter (as @siennasai)~

  6. Siennasai permalink
    December 5, 2010 4:19 pm

    Email subscribed! (via provided address^)

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    December 5, 2010 4:19 pm

    Email subscribed! (via provided address^)

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    December 5, 2010 4:23 pm

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  14. lucylemonade permalink
    December 5, 2010 9:56 pm

    Hmm, if I could place myself in one sex scene it would actually be from the Sookie Stackhouse books. I’d love to be involved in a tryst with Eric (as long as he still looks like Alexander Skarsgard)!

  15. lucylemonade permalink
    December 5, 2010 9:56 pm

    Following you on twitter

  16. lucylemonade permalink
    December 5, 2010 9:57 pm

    Following Susie on twitter

  17. lucylemonade permalink
    December 5, 2010 9:57 pm

    Friended you on facebook

  18. lucylemonade permalink
    December 5, 2010 9:57 pm

    “Like” you on facebook

  19. lucylemonade permalink
    December 6, 2010 3:34 pm

    Tweeted, though the status seems to be glitching http://twitter.com/LucyLemonade/status/11926306782449664

  20. Siennasai permalink
    December 6, 2010 7:21 pm

    Daily tweet~ http://twitter.com/#!/Siennasai/status/11983411514179585

  21. Siennasai permalink
    December 7, 2010 5:00 pm

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  22. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 8, 2010 3:21 am

    I would love to put myself in the City of Angels love scene. I thought it was so sensual. Plus it’s one of my favorite movies!

  23. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 8, 2010 3:21 am

  24. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 8, 2010 3:22 am

    Following @dusk_in_chains on Twitter.

  25. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 8, 2010 3:22 am

    Sent friend request on Facebook.

  26. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 8, 2010 3:23 am

    Already like your page on Facebook.

  27. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 8, 2010 3:23 am

    Following @susiebright on Twitter. @staceejaxxx

  28. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 8, 2010 3:24 am

    Subscribed via email. 1/2

  29. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 8, 2010 3:24 am

    Subscribed via email. 2/2

  30. Siennasai permalink
    December 8, 2010 3:17 pm

    Daily tweet~ http://twitter.com/#!/Siennasai/status/12646688829218816

  31. lucylemonade permalink
    December 9, 2010 3:38 pm

    Daily tweet
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  32. lucylemonade permalink
    December 9, 2010 3:41 pm

    Posted in facebook

  33. lucylemonade permalink
    December 9, 2010 3:42 pm

    Posted in facebook #2 entry

  34. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 9, 2010 4:30 pm

  35. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 10, 2010 3:38 pm

    Tweeted. 12/10

  36. Siennasai permalink
    December 10, 2010 4:24 pm

    Daily tweet~ http://twitter.com/#!/Siennasai/status/13388387666894848

  37. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 11, 2010 4:45 am

  38. Siennasai permalink
    December 11, 2010 4:16 pm

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  39. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 12, 2010 11:39 am

  40. Siennasai permalink
    December 12, 2010 8:37 pm

    Daily tweet~ http://twitter.com/#!/Siennasai/status/14176907641749504

  41. lucylemonade permalink
    December 12, 2010 9:14 pm

    Added you to my blogroll

  42. Siennasai permalink
    December 13, 2010 12:32 pm

    Daily tweet~ http://twitter.com/#!/Siennasai/status/14416565323702272

  43. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 13, 2010 3:46 pm

  44. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 14, 2010 3:42 am

  45. December 14, 2010 5:19 am

    Well, I’d love to be a willing participant in the orgy scene from Velvet Goldmine. I could totally be the filling in a Ewan McGregor/Jonathan Rhys Meyers sandwich. What the heck, go ahead and throw Christian Bale in there too. 😉

  46. December 14, 2010 5:19 am

    I follow @dusk_in_chains on Twitter. I’m @buzzvibe. buzzvibe at gmail dot com

  47. December 14, 2010 6:09 am

    I’m a Facebook friend, account name Buzz on Vibes.

  48. December 14, 2010 6:10 am

    I like your Facebook page (account name is Buzz on Vibes).

  49. December 14, 2010 6:11 am

    I follow @susiebright on Twitter. I’m @buzzvibe.

  50. Trix permalink
    December 14, 2010 10:33 am

    I’d love to be in any of the sex scenes in _The Pillow Book_ featuring Ewan McGregor as Jerome…he was exceptionally beautiful in it, and the scenes were just so sensual. (For me, it’s a tie between the scene where he’s bathing Nagiko on her birthday, or the scene where he takes off his clothes and stretches out on the kitchen table so he can be written upon.) Plus [spoiler alert!], it always upset me that Jerome’s submissive qualities, nonchalant love of sex and exhibitionism, and bisexual tendencies were completely abused by each of his partners, and led to his total victimization and downfall in the end. If only he had had a partner who could just appreciate and enjoy his dewy, omnivorous self on its own merits…that is to say, me!

  51. Siennasai permalink
    December 14, 2010 5:18 pm

    Daily tweet~ http://twitter.com/#!/Siennasai/status/14851575449133057

  52. December 14, 2010 8:25 pm

    Movie scene, hmm? Well, I am a big James Joyce fan and in ‘Nora’, there is a scene where, on their first date walking in a park, Nora pushes him against a wall and reaches in James’ pants (Ewan McGregor) and wanks him off into her hand. He, being James Joyce, finds it revelatory, as she giggles lightly to herself.
    …You know what, really, just the whole movie I’d love to act out over my lifetime. He was a dirty pervert, you know. His writing is delicious.

    • Trix permalink
      December 15, 2010 5:49 pm

      Nice! I also LOVE the scene where James is in bed with Nora in the morning during their honeymoon. The look on Ewan McGregor’s face as he speaks Italian to her just exudes pure sex (and my friends agree). Sigh…

  53. December 14, 2010 8:27 pm

    Following @susiebright as @LoveLettered!

  54. December 14, 2010 8:28 pm

    Following @dusk_in_chains as @LoveLettered 🙂

  55. December 14, 2010 8:30 pm

    Subscribe to your RSS via Google Reader #1

  56. December 14, 2010 8:30 pm

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  57. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 15, 2010 3:33 am

  58. Siennasai permalink
    December 15, 2010 6:04 pm

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  59. Matt Reid permalink
    December 15, 2010 10:07 pm

    Maybe I’m doing this wrong, but the one sex scene from a movie I would love to be in is …. well, anything from Henry and June. To me the whole movie is one big sex scene, and when I saw it it blew my mind. If I have to narrow it to one, I’d choose the scene where Henry, upon exiting a car, lights a match from the sole of his shoe. If anyone out there says that’s not a sex scene, they have a lot to learn….

  60. Matt Reid permalink
    December 15, 2010 10:10 pm

    Following: @dusk_in_chains

  61. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 16, 2010 3:39 am

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    December 17, 2010 3:39 am

  63. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 18, 2010 4:24 am

  64. Siennasai permalink
    December 18, 2010 7:52 pm

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  65. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 19, 2010 5:23 am

  66. December 19, 2010 11:17 pm

    Following you on Twitter @Girlwithfire

  67. December 19, 2010 11:18 pm

    I liked your Facebook Page (Girlwithfire Eden)

  68. December 19, 2010 11:19 pm

    Followed @susiebright on twitter @Girlwithfire

  69. December 19, 2010 11:20 pm

    Subscribed by email smellslikeganja@ hotmail.com

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  74. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 20, 2010 3:56 am

  75. Siennasai permalink
    December 20, 2010 5:43 pm

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  76. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 21, 2010 3:42 am

  77. Siennasai permalink
    December 21, 2010 5:46 pm

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  78. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 22, 2010 3:52 am

  79. Siennasai permalink
    December 22, 2010 6:03 pm

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  80. December 22, 2010 8:24 pm

    If I could put myself in one movie sex scene it would be the super hot stairway sex scene in A History of Violence. I love how sexy and intense the entire scene is and Viggo Mortensen is quite sexy, in my opinion.

    • December 22, 2010 9:18 pm

      I. LOVE. VIGGO. MORTENSEN.
      Unfortunately I did not see A History of Violence, but I did see LOTR and that was enough for me to love him forever.

  81. December 22, 2010 8:25 pm

    I’m following you on Twitter as @bzzingbee

  82. December 22, 2010 8:27 pm

    I friended you on Facebook as bzzingbee

  83. December 22, 2010 8:28 pm

    I ‘liked’ your page on Facebook as bzzingbee

  84. December 22, 2010 8:29 pm

    I’m now following @susiebright on Twitter as @bzzingbee

  85. December 22, 2010 8:32 pm

    I’m subscribed to your blog with email bzzingbee7 At gmail dot com/ thru my wordpress account bzzingbee.wordpress.com

  86. December 22, 2010 8:32 pm

    2nd entry post for subscription to blog

  87. December 22, 2010 8:34 pm

    You’ve been added to my blogroll! (bzzingbee.wordpress.com)

  88. December 22, 2010 8:54 pm

    I’ve added your button to my blog: http://www.bzzingbee.wordpress.com
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  89. December 22, 2010 8:55 pm

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  91. December 22, 2010 8:57 pm

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  92. December 22, 2010 8:58 pm

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  93. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 23, 2010 3:43 am

  94. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 24, 2010 4:18 am

  95. Siennasai permalink
    December 24, 2010 12:05 pm

    daily tweet~ http://twitter.com/#!/Siennasai/status/18396718563336192

  96. Heather permalink
    December 24, 2010 10:06 pm

    Following @dusk_in_chains on twitter!

  97. Heather permalink
    December 24, 2010 10:08 pm

    I (Heather Ware) sent a friend request to Dusk Rose on facebook.

  98. Heather permalink
    December 24, 2010 10:09 pm

    I (Heather Ware) liked your page on facebook.

  99. Heather permalink
    December 24, 2010 10:11 pm

    I’m following @susiebright on twitter. I’m @crazy_gingercat.

  100. Heather permalink
    December 24, 2010 10:12 pm

    I’m subscribed to your RSS feed.

  101. Heather permalink
    December 24, 2010 10:18 pm

    I tweeted!

  102. Heather permalink
    December 24, 2010 10:23 pm

    Whoops! I missed the mandatory entry. Okay, here it is.

    I would put myself in the orgy in Shortbus! It looks like so much fun, and I would love to visit a place like that.

  103. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 25, 2010 4:23 am

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    December 26, 2010 9:53 am

  105. Heather permalink
    December 26, 2010 4:06 pm

    Tweeted today! 12/26

  106. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 27, 2010 3:30 am

  107. Heather permalink
    December 27, 2010 10:51 am

    Daily tweet!

  108. Siennasai permalink
    December 27, 2010 4:09 pm

    Daily tweet~ http://twitter.com/#!/Siennasai/status/19545265639784449

  109. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 28, 2010 3:50 am

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    December 28, 2010 10:28 pm

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    December 29, 2010 3:47 am

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    December 30, 2010 3:47 am

  113. Heather permalink
    December 30, 2010 9:45 pm

  114. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    December 31, 2010 1:52 am

  115. Stacee Jaxx permalink
    January 1, 2011 4:33 am

  116. Girl With Fire permalink
    January 1, 2011 8:04 pm

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